While Scientology is way worse hopefully the parallels will get her thinking. Because if you can't live and let live, you both need to dive deep into this stuff and figure out what you believe and want in your life. You guys are looking into this wayyyyyyy too much. Don't wait for it to eventually fall apart or hope that she will change. But I'm trying to determine how much of that behavior is truly down to his profession, and how much of it is him not being very into me or just selfish and unwilling to compromise even if that selfishness is a byproduct of his residency, and not how he would be in other circumstances.
I am a lawyer married to a surgical oncologist. It's a great idea to know where you stand so that you'll be prepared when this comes up in conversation. Well, you know what you're not going to get into before marriage So fuck that relationship. I married a non-member over 20 years ago. Also, love how you describe how God has our backs and we can actually act on the notion of things hoped for that are not seen instead of the quaint pseudo idea that all things are known in advance, step by step, and lead to mortal and eternal bliss. Of course he invited me to come with him, but he is in the wedding, so I'll be sitting there watching him in the wedding on my 30th birthday weekend.
From her summary, he just did not understand her dilemma at all. Because what are Mormons about. They do exist and you deserve that. It's been really helpful already. And he likes the idea of us raising our daughter with the values the Mormon church instills on their youth. Marriage is unbelievably amazing and indescribably painful; I have been at it for 28 years with my soul mate. Mormons follow the law of Chastity; they believe that the intimate act of lovemaking must be saved for after marriage. And that my friend, is just a hint of the extent of the brain wash that Mormons experience.
I suggest to run as it will not get better. We decided early on that having only one working parent was critical -- I am always the one that flexes to his schedule like it or notand staying home with our child enables me to do that. I mean, I get where it comes from but it's so ridiculous. Doesn't leave many options here though but better than constantly having them push the church on you until you either give in and convert or break up. God and the Goddess had something more waiting for me. I can be part of a church family whether my spouse goes or not. Salaries for doctors are declining, with my boyfriend telling me that some nurses now make more than the lowest paid medical specialty - pediatrics. Again, though the evolving times may have brought about a relaxation in this rule, it is still followed by many youngsters.